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The chef cook and his daughter:

A daughter complained to her father about life and how things were so 
hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted 
to give up. She was tired of struggling. It seemed that as soon as one 
problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with 
water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In 
one he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs, and the last he 
placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a 
word. 
The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently waited, wondering what he 
was doing. In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He fished 
the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and 
placed them a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a 
bowl. Turning to her he asked. "What do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. 
He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and 
noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break 
it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. 
Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its 
rich aroma.
She said, "What's the point?" 
He explained that each of the items had faced the same adversity - 
boiling water - but each reacted differently. 
The carrot went in strong and hard. But after being subjected to the 
boiling water, it softened and became weak. 
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid 
interior. But after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became 
hardened. 
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the 
boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" he asked his daughter. "When adversity knocks on your 
door, how do you respond? Do you become weak, like a carrot, hard on the 
inside, like an egg, or do you change the circumstances, like the coffee beans?" 

morel:-   There are different ways to react to hardship. Don't be weak or suppress things - change circumstances from within. 
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